Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem.
Assallaamun alaykum warahmatullaahi wa barakaatu beloved
sisters and brothers,
Alhamdu lil lLaah for the blessings of Islam, Alhamdu lil lLaah for the lives of the organizers of the seminar and the members
of the Rayhan Yaqub Foundation. Jazaakumullaah khair! May Allah subhaanahu wa
ta aalaa continue to bless you all abundantly.
Nevertheless, the chairman, Imaam Abass Abdul Karim, may
Allah put more Rahma in your life, and the speakers, in no particular other, Hajia Huraira Abdul
Razak, Imam Abdul Wahab Jasaw and Hajia Zubaida Issah, Jazaakumullah khair! May Allah increase you all in beneficial knowledge to continue to impart on others. Aameen ya Rabbi! Of course the seminar would not
have been successful without the ladies who participated, including myself, Alhamdu lil lLah
for our lives. May we be able
to actualise what we have
learnt and be able to inculcate it into the lives of other people wherever we
find ourselves, Aameen.
The maiden Ladies' Triplet Seminar was the first of its
kind. Personally I really have
never had the opportunity to attend an all ladies' seminar, so with this one of its kind, I must confess that
it was all exciting right from the beginning to the end. I had expected the
best and my expectation
was simply met. I had learnt
great lessons! Everything was laudable, from the activities of the organisation to the short video
shows, the choice of speakers coupled with the free books, not forgetting the
meal. I enjoyed the food so much that I carried some home to tell my family the
kind of programme I attended for FREE.That is just by the way.
I
would like to use this opportunity to commend the organisers again on the video shows. I am
very particular on it because I believe the human mind learns to capture things
faster with visuals and what is learnt forever remains indelible on the mind.
Moving to the main issues concerning the seminar, I would
start with the first video show. A short Islamic movie titled "CHANGE OF
HEART”. I would give a brief description of the movie.
"CHANGE OF HEART"
The story talks about a young couple who got separated
because of the past mistakes of the wife from which she learns and repents. The
husband gets to know the mistakes from outside and tries to judge her, but realises he was wrong that only
Allah SWT has the authority to be a judge and He alone accepts sincere
repentance and forgives.
From this short video, I had learnt numerous lessons but I
would put much emphasis on three main values that play key roles in every human
relation looking at it from another angle of the story. They are in other of
priority;
1. Trust
2. Acceptance
3. Understanding
"TRUST"
plays an important role in a relationship. A couple who has no
trust for each other are bound to doubt each other and this leads to
other different negative effects altogether. So a couple should be able to have
trust for each other in the sense that information about either party heard from outside must not be
brought into the marriage and vice versa and must not have an adverse effect on
the marriage.
Based on my perspective about the movie, the husband would
not have reacted the way he did if he had trust for his wife. He could have
used it as a tool to
strengthen the bond between them.
He would not have paid much attention to the information in the first place. So
from here I got to learn that the absence of "trust" in a
relationship especially marriage is detrimental to it survival.
The second one is "ACCEPTANCE".
I had learnt that In every relationship, we must accept people for who they
are, in other words we must accept
what they are now and their past experiences (mistakes) though they may still live with guilts. Once we say we love someone and
accept them, we have accepted everything about them including their current and
past lives.
Notwithstanding the fact that love is a must, understanding
should be present, and it is only achieved through effective communication.
If effective and efficient communication
set in the relationship, it
brings about a better and a mutual
understanding which could
safeguard the relationship
against all the negative effects
bi idhniAllah.
The following
among other points are the lessons I picked directly from the movie like
_Avoid passing quick judgment
on others
_Mistakes are part of
our lives to make us better people.
_Allah forgives
whoever He wills and accepts a sincere tawbah (repentance)
Qur'an 66:08 says
Surah At-Tahrim, Verse 8:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا
تُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ تَوْبَةً
نَّصُوحًا عَسَىٰ رَبُّكُمْ أَن
يُكَفِّرَ عَنكُمْ سَيِّئَاتِكُمْ وَيُدْخِلَكُمْ
جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِن تَحْتِهَا
الْأَنْهَارُ يَوْمَ لَا يُخْزِي
اللَّهُ النَّبِيَّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَعَهُ نُورُهُمْ
يَسْعَىٰ بَيْنَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَبِأَيْمَانِهِمْ
يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا أَتْمِمْ لَنَا
نُورَنَا وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا إِنَّكَ
عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ
O you who believe! turn to Allah with a sincere turning; maybe your Lord will remove from you
your evil and cause you to enter gardens beneath which rivers flow, on the day
on which Allah will not abase the Prophet (SAW) and those who believe with him; their light shall run on
before them and on their right hands; they shall say: Our Lord! make perfect
for us our light, and grant us protection, surely Thou hast power over all
things.
THE FIRST LECTURE
"Reviving the
sense of responsibility in the muslimah" by Hajia Huraira Abdul Razak.
Hajia in her lecture said something that caught my attention,
she said "Children are the message
we send into the future that we may not live to
see" this short sentence to me speaks volumes, she made us understand that the role of a
Muslimah in the family is to take care of the home and whatever is in it especially
the children.
The Muslimah should strive to be good in every affair because she nurtures the children, by
doing this she sets good examples for the children. Moreover, she will be
accountable for the moral upbringing of her children so she must strive to make
them good people in the society. Teach and lead the children by example.
And also have a good character and be considerate towards
other people in the society.
SECOND LECTURE
I believe I can fly
back to Allah by Imam Abdul Wahab Jassaw
From this lecture I got to know about the 3 Cs to help fly back to Allah
1) Have Conscience.
2) Be Considerate
3) Be Compassionate
I will explain briefly in shaa Allaah
1. CONSCIENCE
Have a CONSCIENCE in relating to others and
ourselves. Be able to detect whether our actions are helping others or not.
2.
CONSIDERATE
We should learn to consider other people in whatever we do.
Put ourselves in their situation in other to help them better.
We should try to help them without being judgmental and disloyal. He used the mirror
to give an insightful meaning of this point. The mirror reflects the image of a
person when he/she stands in front of the mirror, but the image disappears when
the person moves from where the mirror is.
We should all consider being like the mirror. Listen to other
people’s problems and keep them confidential and avoid making them feel guilty
about their mistakes.
3. COMPASSION
Simply, be selfless and try not to hurt the feelings of other people. Have that sacrificial
attitude and most importantly love one another for the sake of Allah.
These are the Golden rules to help fly back to Allah. Be
proud of the Islam you have.
If you are blessed to know Allah, His Prophet S.A.W and
understand Islam, why not carry your sister who is weak in heart along. We
should strive to always be there for one another as Qur'an 49:10 says
Surah Al-Hujraat, Verse 10:
إِنَّمَا
الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ
أَخَوَيْكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُرْحَمُونَ
The believers are but brethren, therefore make peace between
your brethren and be careful of (your duty to) Allah that mercy may be had on
you.
Be proud of the good
Muslimah that you are and make everyone look up to you.
THIRD LECTURE
Muslimah Muslimah
Palaver by Aunty Zubaida Issah
Wonderful lecture and topic .She talked about some negative
traits that we need to throw away like Backbiting, suspicion which are all prohibited in Islam as the Qur'an
says
Surah Al-Hujraat, Verse 12:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا
اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ
إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ
وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم
بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن
يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا
فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ
تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ
O you who believe! Avoid most of suspicion, for surely
suspicion in some cases is a sin, and do not spy nor let some of you backbite
others. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? But you
abhor it; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, surely Allah is Oft-returning
(to mercy), Merciful
So the Muslimah shouldn't go anywhere near them. As muslimahs, we'll be faced with these challenges but always seek refuge in Allah
from Shaitaan the outcast and Allah will make it easy for us.
As a muslimah, your
presence shouldn't be a threat to the society. You should be environmentally
friendly and make the community a comfortable place for everyone. If Allah has
blessed you with Taqwa, you should try to do the right
thing everywhere and in all situations, and He blessed you with
the ni'ima to wear hijab, cover up, you should not be complacent and not be
judgemental.
The above point further explains the lessons I had learnt
from the second video show.
If a friend is not a hijabi, this should give you
the opportunity to help her start wearing and not make her feel inferior.
I could not finish adding this
"Talk small and ponder a lot" Hajia Zubaida
A life time lesson!
Finally, all the speakers I believe are telling us one thing; Planning our lives well now for a better hereafter.
In a nut shell, it was exciting, insightful, and
inspirational.
The Rayhan Yaqub Foundation (RYF) served us beyond our
expectations, and in fact the RYF fulfilled their theme Awakening the Pearls of Islam! The RYF are very creative and has
got a lot of positive activities to introduce
into the Islamic community in all aspects of life to revive the Islam in us, as
the RYF motto proclaims “REVIVING THE ISLAM IN YOU” and help us fly back to Allah.
Assallaamu alaykum warahmatullaahi wa barakaatu
Jazakumullaahu khair for making time to read this article of
what I learnt from the TRIPLET LADIES SEMINAR in Accra on 24th
January, 2015, at the Daarul
Arqam Academy near Alajo polo.
All
Perfections belong to Allah SWT alone.
By : Hudrah Larry
Editorial
Board Member
Rayhan
Yaqub Foundation
Jazakumullaahu khairan for making time to read this article
May Allaah keeping guiding us and make us better people
May Allaah grant us the ability to practice what we have
learnt from The Triplet Ladies Seminar
RYF: Reviving the Islam in you
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